Do I have something on my Face?
Have you ever gone into the bathroom after a meal out and realized you have food on your face or a large chunk stuck in your teeth? My guess is that this has happened to just about everyone. Did it just get missed by the people we were with or did they not want to point it out to us?
I like to use this analogy of “food on the face” that we are not aware of being similar to blind spots or character flaws we can’t see in ourselves. The things that are blatantly obvious to other people but we overlook or don’t even realize we are doing. Maybe you have characters flaws and no one will step up an point them out to you. Do you have anyone in your life who would be honest with you want point out these flaws to you? Sometimes we need other people to help us out and point out the things we can’t see ourselves.
Now when I say point out flaws I don’t mean to have someone shred everything you do apart. I don’t mean harsh or nasty criticism beacuse that will do more harm than good. I mean constructive criticism that is coming from a helpful, well meaning place.
If you don’t think anyone in your life will step up and openly tell say, “you have food on your face”, you could ask some people you trust to help you out.
Family- Talk to a few people in your family that you trust and ask them how you could be a better family member. Find out what things you are doing that might bother them.
Friends- Ask a few close friends for any thing you could do to be a better friend.
Co-workers and business associates- Ask co-workers or business associates what work habits you have that you could improve. Ask them what you could do to help them more. Ask them how you could be a more effective co-worker.
Sometimes it is not fun to look at ourselves this way. To get that unpleasant, truthful glimpse in the mirror when we realized there is ”food on our face” that no one has told us about. Once we face that reality and clean up that ”food” we will be much better off.
I would love to hear any stories people have about this. Feel free to send me a comment.
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Hi Angela!
Wow, I think I would be way too afraid to do this. There is no way that I would ask my family. That would be like jumping into a snake pit. As for friends….I dunno…
I don’t like having food on my face, but sheez! I guess I’m going to have to opt for that sauce dripping down my face a little longer!
Thanks for challenging us to be better people.
Mentor Mama
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Angela Reply:
May 20th, 2010 at 8:15 pm
Thanks Nancy! It understand not wanting to do it. It can be hard to bring to light bad traits. It might be helpful if you have someone who is coming from a genuine place that will help you rather than hurt you.
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Hi Angela,
The only way to become a stronger, more centered individual is to be willing to do the tough work of looking honestly and openly at ourselves, good traits and bad. Asking others who we trust to candidly share with us what they see to be our strengths and weaknesses can really help us as we move along the road of developing our characters. Have you read the book Strengths Finder 2.0 or know of Marcus Buckingham’s work? Both explore the power of knowing our strengths so we can move beyond our weaknesses.
Great post!
Mary Lou
.-= Mary Lou Kayser´s last blog ..If a Cruise Ship Showed Up in Your Driveway, Would You Climb Aboard or Pretend It Wasn’t There? =-.
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Angela Reply:
May 20th, 2010 at 8:12 pm
Thank you Mary Lou! I have not read those books, they sound interesting though. I will have to check them out. Thanks for the suggestion.
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Angela,
Learning to see and embrace your whole self can be scary and daunting. Entrusting a true friend to share open, honest feedback is a way to find that something on your face.
You bring up a subject that is kind of like your post, not looked at.
Thanks for a such a thought provoking post,
Val
.-= Val Wilcox´s last blog ..Discover Your Purpose in Life =-.
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Angela Reply:
May 20th, 2010 at 8:11 pm
Thanks Val! It can be very scary to look at ourselves and see things that are not so pretty. I think it can be very helpful though.
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Wow. What a thought provoking post. Thank you, once again Angela for opening my eyes to how I can be a better person. I never thought of asking my friends, family & co-workers how I’m doing…but why not?!
I’m going to start today! (Deep breathe!)
-Alisha
Twitter: alisha.krugergmail.com
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Over the last three years I have given a few close friends the permission to tell me that I have food on my face. I don’t always like it. I can get defensive at first but I know that they have my best interests at heart and I trust their opinions.
.-= Kevin M.´s last blog ..Life is a marathon, not a sprint =-.
Twitter: KevinMartineau
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Angela Reply:
May 26th, 2010 at 9:09 pm
That is awesome that you have close friends who will do that for you. It is hard sometimes and easy to become defensive but it is great when you are aware they have your best interst at heart.
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Angela – Such a great post! I love the analogy you have used here to remind us of the fact we all have character flaws that may not be that apparent to us.
.-= Glyna Humm´s last blog ..Are You Ready For Google TV? =-.
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Angela Reply:
May 26th, 2010 at 9:12 pm
Thanks Glyna! So true that so many of us have character flaws that we do not see ourselves. It is great when we can get honest feedback about it that is not meant to be hurtful but helpful.
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hi angela! you make a great analogy here. in MLM it’s our responsibility as mentors to tell our team “what’s on their face”. our downline may be acting in a certain way that will not be beneficial to themselves or their biz, and have absolutely no idea! we need to offer suggestions that come from a place of compassion.
.-= Melissa McCloud´s last blog ..Grown Men Can Be So Pathetic =-.
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Angela Reply:
June 7th, 2010 at 7:07 am
Thanks for your comment Melissa! That is a very valid point too that we need to help people out on our teams when we can. Help them to make choices that will be beneficial to them, especially if they are heading in the wrong direction.
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Sometimes we can be our worst critics. We should never look at the flaws of others without first looking at ourselves.
Bill Hartman´s last [type] ..Power of the Mind
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Angela Reply:
June 11th, 2010 at 9:13 pm
True Bill! It is like that saying about seeing a sliver in someone else’s eye when we have a log in our own eye. I don’t know if that is exactly how it is phrased but you are correct in saying we need to look at our own flaws.
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Interesting analogy! I find that people who “call” you out on things are usually talking about themselves – projecting and their not aware of their own behavior. Would I rather have someone tell me I have food on my face? It would depend what kind of meal I’m having …. nice article!
Lesly´s last [type] ..Are You Brainwshing Yourself?
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Angela Reply:
June 23rd, 2010 at 7:40 am
Hey Lesly! I have seen that to be true too, where someone calls you out on something and they are really talking about themselves. Very good point. Thanks for sharing.
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